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How to get into a Las Vegas Club March 15, 2009

If have ever tried to enjoy the Las Vegas nightlife, you know the lines can be crazy!! For some people, they spend their whole night standing in line – and not even getting into the club of their choice. Unfortunate, but not uncommon. The following is a quick way of getting around the hours of endless waiting and getting up to the red rope.


If you are going to a club with just the ladies .. your chances of getting into the club without waiting in endless lines just went up! The clubs rely on lots of girls going to their clubs, so groups of girls are a must for a successful club night. Think about it – guys are more likely to wait and pay to get into a club if they see groups of hot girls going in.

If you can decide early in the day – go to the hotel of your desired club during the day. Go to the club entrance – there is usually a VIP host or some promoter looking for girls like you. Talk to them and tell them that you have a group of ONLY girls… and that you are there for whatever occasion. More times than not, they will just give you comp tickets or just tell you to contact them when you get to the door. If they tell you that they will put you on a guest list – make sure you get their cell phone number. (Make sure you have the promoter’s name and number handy for when you get to the club .. just in case). Enjoy the rest of your day and get ready for a fun night out! Once you get to the club just text the promoter that you are there – that way the promoter can direct you to the right person – of just come get you šŸ™‚ VIP

If you are last minute – as most girls are – you will probably not even think about what club you are going to visit .. until the guest lists are closed. Get ready as quickly as possible. (Although Vegas clubs don’t close until 4am or later, don’t walk up to a club at 12:30 expecting to waltz right in.) Go to the club of your choice – find the person in charge of bottle / table service. If they are unavailable or swamped with table reservations – try to get the attention of the person with the guest list or the guy behind the rope. Grab their attention – be nice. Remember- these guys see girls all day long – they will NOT respond to snobby, bitchy (excuse my language) girls. Catch their attention and call them over. Tell them that it’s “me plus (number in your group) girls — no guys… we were told that you’d be able to take care of us” … Most of the time they will let you in after the next large group… HAVE FUN!!!

For the Co-Ed Girl Guy Groups:

Rules here are pretty simple: Put the girls in the front – try to get more girls than guys (even if you have to find a few randoms)

Most clubs have a 2:1 ratio rule: 2 girls to every guy that enters the club. So if you are in a group of guy and gals, make sure you make the girls visible to the promoters. It always helps to slip a little money to the bouncer- but not necessary if you have a lot of girls – few guys .. or a lot of hot girls and nice guys. Guys: Don’t act like you are the*ish – Again … promoters in Vegas don’t have time to deal with arrogant – i’m the *ish type guys.

For the GUYS group:

Best advice: GET A TABLE. That will benefit you in so many ways .. Faster service, more drinks, and more girls. If you can’t get a table – do the following:


Once again, Vegas clubs are known for hot girls and the 2 girl 1 guy ratio. If you are guy with no pull at the club you are going to – you are going to have to pay cover. Sorry boys .. it’s just how it works. Go to the regular line and pick up some girls – most of the time you won’t find any… So – leave the immediate entrance of the club -walk into the hotel – and look for girls who look like they are going to the club…. invite them to join you. Again – you are going to have to pay – so you may / may not have to pay for their cover charges as well… Once you find the girls

Find a bouncer – preferably someone that is already behind the rope. Tell him that you have girls with you – and most likely – you will have to slip him some money. Even though this option may be a bit more costly … you won’t have to wait as long – as you will be able to enjoy the club, not just the club entrance.

No matter what kind of group you are in – guys only, girls only, mix… remember one thing. This is Vegas. The bouncers and promoters at these places have seen / heard every story. Don’t pull the ”Don’t you know who I am” type of a line. It doesn’t work. Try the above- and be patient. They are working as hard as they can to get you in .. remember- the more people they get into the club – the more money THEY make.


How to improve your communication skills: be an effective listener March 8, 2009

Listening seems easy enough, but actually it’s an art that requires much time and practice to master. We’ve all encountered situations in which we’ve misinterpreted or made assumptions about what somebody said, only to lead to massive misunderstanding and possibly arguments! This is why it’s critical to be an active listener. When you are in the listener role, your job is to support the person who is speaking. You are not going to get very far if you just sit there and let their words go in one ear and out the other. If you care about the speaker, let them know through active listening.

Ways to respond while your partner is speaking:

  1. Show that you understand your partner’s statements and accept his/her right to have those thoughts and feelings, even if you disagree with their content. Let him/her speak for some time beforeĀ interjecting with your own speech.Ā When you do pipe up, reflect and summarize your partner’s most important feelings, desires, conflicts, and thoughts. Especially focus on feelings, as this is often what can deepen the conversation and lead to a deeper level of understanding. This means you’ll be doing some guesswork regarding what your partner is really trying to say- it’s trial and error. Sometimes you’ll get it wrong, sometimes you’ll be right on target. With practice, you’re going to improve.
  2. Demonstrate this acceptance through your tone of voice, facial expressions, and posture.
  3. Try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes and look at the situation from his/her perspective, in order to determine how s/he feels and thinks about the issue. If there’s a problem at stake, your partner already has the solution. Thing is, s/he may not be aware of it due to confusion or emotional overload. That’s where your critical role as the listener comes in.Ā The listener’s jobĀ is to do some detective work and helpĀ theĀ speaker come to peace with the topic at hand. As mentioned in #1, you must try to peel back the layers of what your partner has said and figure out what is going on underneath. Focus on feelings, try to guess what isĀ at stake for your partner.Ā Use your partner’s words– there’s no better way to make a person feel validated than by using their language.

While you are the listener, DO NOT:

  1. Express your own opinion or perspective.
  2. Think about how your partner’s words affect you– your job is to be helping them when you are in the listener role. You will get your turn as the speaker.
  3. Offer solutions or attempt to solve a problem without being asked.
  4. Make judgments or evaluate what your partner said.


With these skills, we hope you will become a better, more active listener!


How to be smart about our money, and surviving these tough times. What do we do? March 4, 2009

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It’s no secret that we are all in an economic crunch. People are losing jobs left and right, while the price of gas keeps increasing. Stocks are definitely not the answer … and it seems like keeping your money in the bank is a bit risky as well… What are we to do?

In an attempt to be more economy / investment savvy, I have taken it upon myself to do some research. How do I save money? Where do I invest my money?

After surfing the web… I was a bit discouraged. There doesn’t seem to be a safe place for our money right now. Not only that, I’m not a finance / investment guru. I do not understand industry specific lingo – so half of the blogs / studies I read about went over my head.

THANK GOODNESS for this next website… is a great website to learn about investment and to really break down our economic status

Eric states that his goal is to explore investment ideas, discuss the current economy – in terms that even I can understand… and most of all … he will be giving out tips on how to save money, where to invest and even answer your questions! It’s a great deal for a $10 monthly subscription…. for $10 you will get access to all of Eric’s articles, a bi-weekly!! newsletter… and insight into what is really going on!

I know we are all strapped for money right now.. but just think of your $10 monthly subscription as one of your investments. I am sure that you will not be disappointed.

Check back often on our next 10 ways to save money blog … coming up in a few days šŸ™‚

In the mean time …. check outĀ


How to find happiness within your everyday life July 29, 2008

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I feel a bit hypocritical writing a blog on how to find happiness within your life, because often times I fail to do this myself. However, it’s important for us (myself included) to see the beauty in each experience and find that moment of happiness. I think it’s important for people to realize that trials and tribulations are a part of life and with out such obstacles we can’t say we are truly living life.

Ever notice that when you are having a bad day, it seems as if life has the odds stacked against you? We are so quick to calculate and assess the negative but rarely the positive. Why is that? I guess it depends on the person – glass half empty or glass half full? But overall, I think it’s easier to dwell on the things that don’t go as planned because you can always say ”I tried” and move on. Perhaps that nonchalant attitude of ”oh well” is getting you into a funk. Maybe it’s time for start focusing on the action, effort and not so much the outcome. Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to attain goals and reach for the stars, but it’s also important to learn from the process. Speaking from personal experience, I know that I seek validation and satisfaction from the end result of my venture, and fail to see the doors I have opened along the way. When you open those doors, you may be surprised with what you find!

For example, let’s say you are trying to find a new job. You spend countless hours online, visiting job websites, temp agencies, asking for personal referrals, and so on. You find yourself dreaming about your resume revisions. Finally, you set up an interview with a company who is offering a not so ”ideal” position. Out of desperation and some form of change you go to the interview. After the interview you convince yourself that ”this isn’t really the job I’m looking for but I guess I’ll just take it”… Only to find out that you did not get the position. HOW DISCOURAGING!!!! Right? Most people, myself included would feel somewhat rejected, “I couldn’t even land a job that I didn’t really want” or twist it around to thinking ”Whatever, I didn’t want that job anyways”… both trains of thought being less than positive. Yes, at the end of the day you need to get a job … but maybe you need to look at each step along the way. Look at it this way, you were able to familiarize yourself with the job market, you cleaned up your resume and now you have interview experience. Not getting the job allows you to find the job of your dreams! So, when you are feeling down about your situation, try to dissect it a bit more and look at each individual step.

I’m sure this sounds impossible for many people. I know I fail to look at the process over the outcome. However, when you are in a moment of depression, dismay, or plain old frustration, this method of analysis really helps. So we can’t all be living fairy tale lives, but at least we are living a life separate from anyone else. You are in control of your life and you are the only person who can control your emotions. Maybe it’s time to put the Kleenex away because you lost a job, or you broke up with your significant other. Don’t let those outside factors dictate your life. Yes, obstacles suck and we would rather live problem free, but that isn’t something we can control. However, we can control how we think and how we want to live our lives.

In order to find happiness within your life it’s important to focus on the facts. Your life is being acted out by you and only you. It is up to you to deal with the ups and downs of your life. There isn’t a manual, and there isn’t an option for ”fairytale ending” but there is a chance for you to be happy. When the big picture doesn’t pan out as planned, look at the small picture. What did you learn, what can you change and do differently? As long as you are being proactive in your life, you have a chance of finding your true happiness. Like other good things, sometimes happiness require effort. You win some and you lose some, but as long as you keep getting up when you’re down – you have a shot.

Action may not always bring happiness;
but there is no happiness without action
Benjamin Disraeli

So today and everyday, try to see the beauty in your life. Figure out what made your day so different and special. And always remember, change is constant in life. Going through the ups and downs, the cycle keeps us alive.


How To Throw a Successful Surprise Party October 18, 2007

So we can’t all be party planners, or so you think … but it’s much easier than you think! Mammie has put together a few successful surprise parties, and it’s super easy! Surprise parties are a great way to make your loved ones feel special. Surprise parties aren’t always an expensive ordeal either… Here’s your quick guide on “HOW TO THROW A SUCCESSFUL SURPRISE PARTY”

1. Find yourself an accomplice. The middle person who is going to find out information, and help plan the event.

2. Plan a date- Make sure the special boy/ girl is available on the date. Easiest way to find out – ask your accomplice to see if the special person is free on a specific day… Have the accomplice make plans with the special person . For example: When Mammie threw her best friend a surprise birthday party, Mammie had Mammy (accomplice) make plans with her best friend on the day of the party. That way – best friend would never expect anything other than her ‘plans’ with Mammy (accomplice). You don’t want to plan the event too far in advance because the special person may find it suspicious. Ideally try to plan it 2-3 weeks in advance.

3. Pick a venue- Once your accomplice has secured a date- figure out a venue. Easiest way is to have your accomplice plan something where he/she can either take the special person to. For example: Mammy made plans with best friend to hang out during the day and then head home to get ready for dinner. Surprise! happened when they came home. Another example: Have accomplice make dinner plans with special person- and have everyone at that location at least 45 min before. (Saying 45 min will translate to people getting there just on time)

4. Send out the invitations- Best way to send an invitation is via phone. Phone calls will not leak to the special person. However, sometimes we don’t always have their phone numbers. If you don’t have everyone’s phone number- get their email. Best electronic way of sending out invitations are through evites. Go to and you can create your own evite. If you aren’t close friends with special person’s friends- find a trust worthy person to be a middle person. For example: When Mammie threw a surprise party for her brother, she had his roommate forward all the evites. This way, you don’t have to worry about forgetting someone. ***MAKE SURE YOU EMPHASIZE THE *SURPRISE* ASPECT***

5. Follow up- Follow up with the accomplice. Follow up with your guests. A week before your event- send out a follow up email. A few days before your event- get a final count. Make sure the plans are still in effect with accomplice and special person. Confirm reservations or accommodations for event night.

6. Day of event: Set everything up with extra time. When you are planning something like this – you want to make sure you give yourself an extra 45 min-1.5 hours- just in case. If you having the event at your residence, or at a residence, make sure you are completely ready before the guests arrive. If you are having the party at a restaurant – try to arrive early enough for decorations. Most restaurants will allow large parties to sit when 1/2 the party is present so make sure you get some people there on time.

7. Right before the accomplice and special person arrive: make sure everyone is in their place. Last thing you want is a straggler to be wandering, or making excessive noise that will ruin the surprise. Have the accomplice text, or call you right before they arrive. That way you can make sure you have people in place.

8. SURPRISE!!!!! Try to have someone there to capture the moment.

*Keep in mind* A surprise party is an event to remember. Make sure you have a camera to capture all the moments. Try to decorate the venue so that your special person will have no doubt in their mind that this was a planned event. Get a blank scrapbook, color pens, and have your guests write a little message while they wait for the big surprise.

The above 8 steps should be able to aid you in planning a surprise party. The key is to have enough time to plan, set up and execute your party. A surprise party is such a heart warming experience. Go the extra mile and get people together and share a special night with those you love. Good luck!


Where to Spot Celebrities October 3, 2007


Planning a trip to LA? In the back of your mind, are you hoping to spot a star? Ever wonder where all the celebs hang out? Well, The Dream Team has had more than a few celebrity sightings while we’ve been out and about, visiting the places where the stars hang. We’ve seen our fair share of famous musicians, television and movie actors and actresses, models, and sports players. Based on our personal experiences in the past year, here’s where celebs have been hanging:
The Greek Theatre: Guess who else is a fan of Damian Marley & Ben Harper? Jaleel White, Courtney Cox-Arquette, David Arquette
Les Deux: Lance Bass
Xenii: Paris Hilton, Britney Spears, K-Fed
The Roosevelt Hotel: Mischa Barton, Tyson Beckford, Hill Harper
Teddy’s: Paris Hilton, Linsday Lohan
Social Hollywood: Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott
Katana: Mike Tyson, Alfonso Ribiera

Winston’s: Taryn Manning, Andy Milonakis
We’ve also seen Chris Rock, Juliette Lewis, Nicky Hilton, Jake Gyllenhaal, Justin Chambers, Hugh Jackman, DJ Doug E Fresh, Andy Dick, Jose Conseco, Adrien Grenier, Junior Seau, Shawn Wayans, and Jackie Warner in the Hollywood Hills, and at other undisclosed locations!

How to dress for an Engagement Party September 20, 2007

Have you noticed the increasing trend of engagement parties amongst your friends? For some of us who are unaware of the appropriate engagement party may wonder ”What do I wear?” Although some engagement party invitations will specifically state the dress code, others may simply state the date, and location of the party. The following steps will lead you to a stress free outfit choice:

1. Take a look at the invitation:

-Where is the party taking place? Someone’s residence, or a five star restaurant? Seems obvious but someone’s residence is probably going to be a bit more casual than the five star restaurant.

-When is the party taking place? Season, and time of day. If the party is being held during the Summer day, you may be tempted to wear white. DO NOT wear white to the engagement party. You do not want to outshine the bride-to-be in any way. Even if the party is being held during the day, do not wear shorts – opt for a knee length dress or skirt. Make sure you have the appropriate cover up just in case you are under dressed.

2.Ask your friends who were also invited what they are wearing. This is the ‘strength by numbers’ strategy. The more people you communicate with, the more in sync you will be with the rest of the guests.

Look at the big picture. You want to look your best- this is the beginning of the couple’s memorbable ”wedding” chapter of life. Dress according to venue, type of event ( BBQ, 5 course meal), time of day, and season.

*Keep in mind* – Engagement parties are never as formal as the wedding. So, if you have 2 outfits in mind, wear the less formal outfit to the engagement and save the formal outfit for the big day.

Some appropriate outfit options for an engagement party:


Winter- Try to wear something that is either a long dress, or skirt. If you have to wear something shorter than knee length, make sure you wear appropriate closed toe shoes, or boots. Try not to over do the outerwear. Remember, you don’t want to steal all the attention.

Spring- Think Sunday best. Or what you would wear for a family brunch. Something with light, larger patterns, or pastel colors. Again, nothing too short.

Summer-Summer is a great time to find your engagement party outfit because there are so many fun sundresses available. Remember to take a cover-up. If you do wear something without straps, or thin straps, I’d recommend you wearing your cover up into the event. Better safe than sorry. Try to avoid showing too much skin… unless of course it’s a pool party.

Fall- Autumn colors tend to be less festive and happy but try to be fitting with your season. Layering in the fall is a great way to make your outfit more exciting. Even if they are having an ”outside” party, try to dress appropriately for the weather.


Sorry, no season guide here but the guidelines are simple.

Try to find something that has a collar. Whether it be long sleeve, short sleeve, polo, or button down is depending on the actual party. Jeans are usually accepted as long as they are on the dark wash side. Flip flops are usually frowned upon unless it’s a pool party or on the beach.