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In the name of love: Find the IMPERFECT Person September 25, 2007

Filed under: Relationships — mammyflop @ 11:59 pm
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I’m sure most of you are wondering if IMPERFECT is a typo, but it’s NOT. All your life I’m sure you’ve heard people say ” Nobody is perfect.” defines “Perfect” as the following:

“1. conforming absolutely to the description or definition of an ideal type

2. excellent or complete beyond practical or theoretical improvement

3. exactly fitting the need in a certain situation or for a certain purpose.

4. entirely without any flaws, defects, or shortcomings.”

Now take a second and ask yourself – “Are you perfect?” “What qualities would your perfect person have?” “Have your ideals, and / or expectations of the perfect person changed from the ‘perfect person’ 5 years ago?”

Now ponder this- “Would being with someone who exudes absolute perfection be what you are looking for?” ” Would your perfect person ever understand your imperfections?” “Can anyone be 100% perfect at all times, and would that even be exciting?”

Here are my answers- ” I don’t think I can ever be absolutely perfect because we all have different perceptions on perfection.” “I think my definition of the perfect person would be a dichotomy of the necessary qualities I look for (needs) and the situational, constantly evolving characteristics (specific wants) of each individual” “I think each individual has a set of guidelines for ‘perfection,’ and it’s not fair to have a cookie cutter of perfection.” “I wouldn’t want to be with a perfect person, because I would be self-conscious about my own imperfections, or weak points.” “Mr. Perfect may not know how to be spontaneous… sure he is perfect Monday thru Friday, but sometimes I want a little bit of excitement.” “My ‘perfect’ person is always undergoing some revision – I don’t think my ‘perfect’ person 5 years ago would even resemble my perfect person right now.”

Take a look at the above definition: “complete beyond … improvement”
Do you really want to spend your time, your life, your energy on someone who doesn’t have room for improvement? I think not. We always long for better, for the best.

With all that being said- I am no longer looking for Mr. Perfect. I don’t think Mr. Perfect exists, nor do I long to find him. I am searching for Mr. Imperfect. Why?


Take a minute and process the above quote.

Being with a perfect person is like hitting the glass ceiling. You can never reach any higher…. if things don’t stay perfect, there is only one way to go – down.

People aren’t perfect- people make mistakes- people learn from mistakes- people change – all in the name of love. Making mistakes are never fun times, but, at least you know there is room for growth.

You may never find Mr. Perfect, but what you can do is love a person for who they are- imperfections and all. Let’s face it, some imperfections are quite endearing, and humbling.

And when you find yourself wanting to see Mr. Imperfect, don’t be afraid – you may be surprised. Don’t let the apparent imperfections steer you away from true love…. You know what they say:

“Love conquers all.”